What to Write in a Sympathy Card: Gentle Guidance for Difficult Moments
When someone you care about is grieving, finding the right words can feel impossible. You want to offer comfort, but you’re afraid to say the wrong thing. You want to show love, but sometimes silence feels safer than saying something you wished you hadn’t.
The truth is, no-one expects your words to be perfect, they should just be sincere.
Here at Perfect Petals, we’ve assisted many Brisbane families and their loved ones through their most heart breaking moments. We’ve seen how a few sincere and loving lines, paired with a thoughtful bouquet, can offer a gentle light during a dark time. Below are some simple, meaningful sympathy card message ideas to help you find the right words.
Short and Simple Sympathy Messages
Perfect when you want to say something kind and sincere, but not too personal. This would be appropriate for a colleague or acquaintance.
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With deepest sympathy.
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Thinking of you in this difficult time.
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Sending love and strength your way.
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My heart goes out to you and your family.
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Holding you in my thoughts today and always.
Pair with our Serenity bouquet — soft whites and peaceful greens, ideal for a respectful gesture of support.
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Personal Messages for Close Friends or Family
When you’re writing to someone you know well, it’s okay to express your feelings. Let your heart lead.
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No words can ease the pain, but I hope you feel surrounded by love.
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Please know how much you’re loved. I’m holding your hand in spirit.
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May the memories you shared bring you comfort over time.
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To live in the hearts we leave behind is not to die. Because he lived, there is more love in the world than there would have been without him.
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Sharing in your sadness as you remember him. You will smile again with the treasured memories you will forever hold. I hope you feel surrounded by much love at this sad time.
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Celebrating the life of a wonderful person, and mourning their passing with you.
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I know I can't make your pain go away, but I want you to know I'm here with a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen or anything else that you need.
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Someone who shared so much of life with you will forever be a part of you. Keeping you in our thoughts and sending all our love and comfort.
Looking for something lasting? Consider sending Comforting Condolences with gifts for the grieving heart that are both touching and forever keepsakes.
Messages for the Loss of a Parent
Losing a parent is a profound kind of grief. These words can help honour their memory and acknowledge the pain.
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Your mum/dad was an extraordinary person. I feel so lucky to have known them.
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There’s no love like that of a parent — I’m so sorry for your loss.
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May your heart find comfort in the legacy they leave behind.
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They raised a beautiful soul in you. That love lives on.
Thoughtful pairing: In Loving Memory — a gift that will bring comfort through their heartache.
Religious and Spiritual Condolence Messages
If you share a faith tradition with the recipient — or you know that their spirituality is important to them — you may wish to include a reference to their beliefs.
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May God hold you close and give you peace during this time.
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Keeping you in my prayers and asking for comfort and healing.
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May [Name] rest in eternal peace.
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Their soul is now in a place of light and love.
Tip: Keep it gentle, never assuming belief if you’re unsure.
Tips for Writing Your Card
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Be authentic. Your tone matters more than the exact words.
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Use their loved one’s name. It makes the message feel personal and real.
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Don’t rush. Sometimes the most meaningful messages are written after reflection — even a week or two later.
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Add a memory if appropriate. “I’ll never forget when…” is a powerful way to remember together that this person held such a special place in your hearts.
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A few heartfelt lines are enough
When Flowers Say What Words Can’t
Kindness — in word or in gesture — always lands softly, like a warm hug from a loved one.
If you’re sending flowers, your message will be handwritten on one of our elegant Perfect Petals sympathy cards. We take great care in ensuring your words arrive just as you intend them: heartfelt, respectful, and gently comforting.
Please know that even though your gesture will be comforting and greatly appreciated, we find that most recipients are just not in the right frame of mind to be phoning to express their thanks at the time. We will let you know that your gift has been delivered but it may take some time for them to acknowledge your gift. I'm sure you'll understand their need for space and time.
Need help choosing what’s appropriate?
Reach out to us, we are always here to help.