The 8th September is ‘Are You Okay?’ day, when we reach out to someone who may be out of sorts, withdrawn, aggitated, or just not being their usual selves and ask the simple question – ‘are you okay?’. One question, one small act of kindness may be all it takes to start a meaningful conversation and let them know they’re not alone.

Reaching out for emotional support could feel quite daunting.  They may fear appearing too needy, or don’t want to impose.  Perhaps revealing a struggle will make them feel vulnerable.  But what we need to remember is that we are all in this together.  Looking out for each other is part of who we are as humans and what makes us happier and healthier. Evidence shows that caring for others can also benefit our own mental health and wellbeing. It reduces stress as well as improves mood, self-esteem and happiness.  See – it’s a win/win!

To be supportive is to be human – what one person is going through today, might be similar to what we have been through.  To lend a compassionate ear, or helping hand will nurture strong emotional bonds and deeper connections. Not to mention a profound sense of gratitude from those in need.  When you’re in an attitude of gratitude, it is impossible not to pay it forward.  Imagine that ripple effect.

Let’s start with R U OK? day, ask the question.  Maybe ask it twice – ensuring they know you’re not just politely asking but genuinely interested.  Be receptive to whatever the answer may be and do your best to help.  There are some fantastic tips to help you here.

Now let’s take it one step further, or maybe ten.  This is my challenge to you – 10 Days of Support.  Take ten minutes from each of the next ten days to answer these questions and do something about it.  It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture, the smallest act of kindness can go so very far.

I GUARANTEE you, you’ll feel warmth in your heart by doing something wonderful for someone else.

Day 1 – who might be feeling a little lonely these days?

Day 2 – who could use a virtual hug?

Day 3 – who has been in your thoughts lately?

Day 4 – who’s dealing with family issues?

Day 5 – who is on a health care journey?

Day 6 – who’s going through a life change?

Day 7 – who’s carrying a heavy emotional load?

Day 8 – who’s struggling with a hard choice?

Day 9 – who’s missing a loved one?

Day 10 – who needs something only you can give?

Send something thoughtful, we have plenty of tokens of affection here.  Pick up the phone and call or send a simple text.  Get out pen and paper, and write them a beautiful hand written note.

Here are some suggestions if you struggle to find the right thing to say –

• “I’m so sorry you’re going through this.”
• “What are some things you need right now?” (Then, try to follow up with meeting those needs.)
• “I love you.”
• “If you want to talk, I’ll be here to listen. Or I can just quietly sit with you. Whatever makes you comfortable.”
• “I’m praying things will get better for you.”
• “You’re on my mind a lot, and I just want you to know I care.”
• “What was something special or unique about [insert name] that you’d like others to know?” (Saying their loved one’s name is so important because you’re including a person who’ll always be important to your friend.)
• “So many of us are thinking about you and keeping you close in our hearts.”
• “I hope you know your friendship means the world to me and I don’t ever want you to feel alone.”
• “No one should ever have to go through this…especially someone as wonderful as you.”
• “If you want to vent or need somebody to cry with, I will be that somebody.” (If you say this, make sure you’re prepared to follow through on your promise.”
• “Would you like my help?”

Share your thoughts with the world on our socials or simply share a moment of connection between the two of you.

HUMAN KIND…BE BOTH.